My Story.

I’ve walked this path, so that I can walk with you.

I believe so strongly in this program because I have lived it over the past 5 years (I could argue I have been cultivating the mindset I hold for the past 2 decades) and I deeply want to condense those years of work into a gift for others.

Four years ago I extracted myself from a marriage that was slowly killing my spirit. Like many, I stayed with my partner for my kids; the thought of leaving my then 3 and 6 year old still brings fresh tears to my eyes as l remember that time. It was through the miscarriage of my last child that I opened my eyes to what I was doing. How could I bring another child into this world with a partner I was not in alignment with? I used the pain of losing that child to fuel me into action and 6 months after she left this earthly world I was living in a new home.

Peace. Peace sounds nice to talk about, but the path to it is often brutal. When I first moved into my new home my younger son, 4 years old at the time, was filled with emotions. I will never forget the day his face turned red and he found volume in his voice; he wailed at me: You never asked me if you could leave. You never gave me a choice. I wrapped my arms around his strong little body and held him tight and looked him directly in the eye, my own eyes brimming with tears and my soul simultaneously feeling crushed and divinely fortified. I looked at him and responded: You’re right buddy, I didn’t ask you. I had to do this because I matter, I am important too and I had to make this choice for me first, even though I know how much it hurts you. That was my first step toward peace DEEP in my soul. I had spent the previous years of my life ignoring all the whispers, and then shouts, that told me to honor myself, to take care of myself; and I ignored them because I thought I had to in order to care for those I loved the most. It wasn’t until I put myself first that I could even begin to tap into the deeper love I had to offer others.

Discovering, excavating, peace looks different for everyone; for me it started with brutal honesty with myself.

Beauty. The year after I left my marriage, once I had my feet more firmly on the ground I became obsessed with beauty. I innately and deeply needed the inner peace I had worked so hard for to be reflected in my physical environment.

So I burned it all down. Or, in this case, tore it all down. I systematically ripped the entire middle of my house down with my gloved hands. I ripped all of it down to the studs (minus that one exterior wall that we actually removed entirely) and rebuilt the whole thing. I can’t even explain how important and powerful the physical work was, juxtaposed next to the constant metaphor of rebirth and reclaiming myself. It was just simply, beautiful.

After about 8 months the majority of my house was remodeled (but, as my son would say, I will never be done with all the projects I have envisioned around here—I’m currently building a bathroom for my backyard cottage) and I also felt ready to move on to even more growth.

Agency. I’m currently in this season of my growth journey. Taking responsibility for the trajectory of my life, going after what I desire, and no longer allowing myself to hide/hoard my gifts and talents because I'm ‘not ready yet’.

Even before I knew I was moving into the season of agency I made a commitment to myself to always say ‘yes’ to any woman who reached out for help in their journey. People I had worked with in the past, friends of friends and also people in my daily life started reaching out to me. I felt initially premature in my help offering to others—‘wait, I’m not healed yet!’ But more and more I became aware that this was the path. This space that I hold is so important and such an honor. So, here I am, continuing to say ‘yes’ to women who are in a season of transition.

It is beyond an honor to help others in a way I so desperately wish someone had helped me in that season. Whether you are considering separation, just starting on a new chapter of life, or in a blustery time when every day you are blown a different direction, I would be grateful to walk alongside you.

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